How to ensure your peace is NOT Stolen!
“Don’t let people or circumstances pull you into their storm. Instead pull them into your peace.”
Why are you allowing others to disturb your peace of mind? Why are you the disturber of other people’s peace? Too often people intentionally seek you out to rattle and distract you rather that finding healthy and productive ways to cope with their own emotions or problems. Does this sound like you? Maybe you are allowing life’s circumstances to steal your peace. The stealer of your peace is seeking attention, needing to feel more powerful and in control, jealous or envious of your happiness or success, insecure about their own life and thinking they must bring you down to build themselves up, or lacking empathy never considering the impact their actions have on you. You open your peace to be stolen through:
• Negative Self-Talk: Your negative thoughts and beliefs about yourself are reinforced by your inner voice. Unchecked negative self-talk will inhibit your ability to develop healthy relationships with others impacting your need to be accepted and belong. This leads to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness.
• Perfectionism: As a perfectionist you hold yourself to impossibly high standards. You are too focused on achieving your goals while struggling to celebrate any of your accomplishments or even notice them. This will lead to feeling you are not and never can be good enough.
• Comparison: You are constantly comparing yourself to others believing you do not and cannot measure up. But you are telling yourself a lie because you do not know enough about the other person, their situation, or how they are really handling it all. You do not know what is happening within them or behind their closed doors. You become envious and resentful towards others further damaging your relationships and sense of self-worth.
• Lack of Boundaries: When you do not set clear boundaries with others, you will feel overwhelmed, overworked, out of control, and at the mercy of others' demands. Without boundaries, you will struggle to make your needs and what you want a priority. However, you always feel the need to be on call to meet everyone else’s needs fearing if you do not, you will no longer be accepted. When you do not support others, guilt, and shame sets in.
Unresolved Emotions: When you have unresolved emotions, you struggle to process and express your feelings effectively. This leaves you feeling that you cannot fully engage with others due to your unresolved emotional baggage.
• External Stressors: Financial and work stress, health issues, or relationship problems keep you from maintaining a sense of balance and calm. You cannot think clearly to make effective decisions and gain better outcomes.
• Lack of Self-Care: When you neglect your physical, emotional, or spiritual well-being, you will feel drained, exhausted, and overwhelmed. Without self-care, you are always running on empty with no sense of balance.
Keeping your peace of mind is crucial for your overall well-being, yet many people do not fully understand the importance of it. Allowing no one or nothing to disturb your peace of mind will a) improve your mental and physical health, b) help you make better decisions that lead to better outcomes, c) improves your relationships, d) enhances your productivity, and e) help you achieve and exceed your goals. It is important to prioritize self-care and take steps to reduce stress, anxiety, and self-doubt in your daily life. Christian D. Larson reminds you to Promise Yourself:
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to yourself and every person you meet.To make yourself and all your friends feel that there is something in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.
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