“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.”-Eleanor Roosevelt
Life is complex, profound, and full of surprises. Life rises and falls with challenges that come rapidly providing you with critical lessons along the way. Your responsibility is to be aware when it happens in the moment to make better choices and decisions. Everybody talks about success to make their life better. But success is based on ensuring you do not lose yourself during the journey. If you have not been as successful as you would like, could it be that you have responded poorly to life’s requirements by repeatedly ignoring the lessons? You must understand the danger of feeling self-pity or entitlement.
Avoid learning the lesson too late catching you off-guard and unprepared. This allows you to manage life’s challenges eliminating unhealthy habits before they develop. Protect your peace while achieving the emotional, physical, spiritual, and economic success you desire. Below are critical lessons that are important to ensure your continued peace, growth, and success:
The "Easy" Road is Not Easy: When it is too good to be true, it is too good to be true. Be clear about what you want, what it takes to get it, and what are the sacrifices that you must make. Do it the right way through decision, planning and right action. Small, Daily Habits Work: Big and infrequent home runs is not sustainable over life’s journey. Start doing things differently now, not “one day.”
Self-Worth Is Worthy of Your Attention: True fulfillment is calm and motivated by your creative freedom to understand who you are and your craft. Know your self-worth and from where it comes. You can have both fulfillment and personal achievement.
Know Whose Reflections Are in Your Mirror: You must be deliberate with how you spend your time and with whom. The people you see in your mirror all have traits they display daily that you soak in and act on. Every relationship is a path and knowing when it is time to move on to the next one is your challenge. Know what you need to learn and acknowledge and when to speed up or slowdown in your relationships. Only share your vision or good news with those who want to see you succeed. Do not allow yourself to be defined by snide comments, non-constructive feedback, and casual pessimism. Surround yourself with positive and authentic relationships.
Change is inevitable and constant with signals: You must understand and know the value of change, embrace change, and take ownership of change. Your growth is within that change. Learn the signals to use change to your advantage. Listen to Your Inner Voice for Direction: You recognize that voice when you hear it but struggle to follow through and heed its direction. Your ego bombards you with big promises, shiny objects and glorified achievements falsely promising safety and comfort. However, your inner voice will continually raise its hand to speak until you listen. Trust it.
Self-love must be stronger than your desire to be loved: External validation will keep you chasing happiness. When you love yourself and living your best life, the desire to show it off will not exist. You are responsible for your emotional reactions. When you want to show off, ask yourself why.
Your emotional reaction is your responsibility: You should not trigger easily. Take ownership of your emotions and responses. Starve your problems with action: Do not feed your problem with negative thinking. It does not solve it. Focus on the solution, be decisive, show courage, and act.
Your focus and the meaning you give it equals your results: Your decision to focus can mean worry, insecurity, or anxiousness. Or it means success, growth, happiness, and peace. Your choice. Your results. Do not choose unhappiness over uncertainty: You must choose uncertainty over unhappiness many times if you want success, happiness, love, and a life worth living. Avoidance of all risk is your biggest risk.
You have nothing to find: You are not lost. It is not lost. Working to “find it” will continually keep you searching instead of working through the challenges. Be clear, confident, and take uncomfortable action and it will come to you. Focus on progress versus perfection.
Your mental diet can kill you: Your mental diet consists of what you watch, read, follow, say, and think as well as who you spend time with. Assess what you have been feeding yourself with a goal to be in a healthier mental state.
“Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own
lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.”-Og Mandino
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